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Probably TMI!!!

Posted: Thu Mar 26, 2009 11:35 am
by hotmama
Just needed a safe place to vent...today I'm putting on my big girl undies and I'm filing for divorce. We've been separated for a year now and nothing has changed. As much as my heart is breaking, I know its the right thing to do. Things will never ever be right between us. Trust and respect levels are down to zilch. So its now or never. We had dinner the other night, and I sooo wanted to hear him say this is all a mistake....but it never came. Only more finger pointing and score keeping about who's done what....

Re: Probably TMI!!!

Posted: Thu Mar 26, 2009 1:05 pm
by karen
He's missing the boat on a wonderful family. It's always sad to hear about a divorce, but it's the start of a new beginning- with a future that will hopefully be much better for you and your kids. My mother just gave me a coffee mug that says "There's nothing you can't do without confidence, good friends,and the perfect shade of lipstick". We're here for you.

Re: Probably TMI!!!

Posted: Thu Mar 26, 2009 1:26 pm
by JenW
Big hugs to you, Nikki! I agree with Karen. It will be more like a new beginning.

Re: Probably TMI!!!

Posted: Thu Mar 26, 2009 2:02 pm
by rubycat95
Oh, I'm so sad to hear this, but I know that you know what's best for you and your kids. Sending ((((hugs)))) and good vibes your way.......

Re: Probably TMI!!!

Posted: Thu Mar 26, 2009 2:15 pm
by Ghost
Big hugs and good vibes from me too. If I had your wonderful complex, gorgeous face, luscious locks and your dynamo skill in apply make up, I know I could face anything life threw at me :D

Cheers to you hotmama, feel free to vent anytime

Re: Probably TMI!!!

Posted: Thu Mar 26, 2009 3:53 pm
by Cupcake
Ahh, hugs and blessings to you. Your best days are still ahead of you. -x-

Re: Probably TMI!!!

Posted: Thu Mar 26, 2009 9:00 pm
by tizzylou
Sorry to hear that Nikki, having been there and done that , I sympathize with you. But I can also truthfully say that even though there were plenty of hard time while making those decisions and then finalizing everything , in the end I'm glad I left, I am a much happier, calmer and healthier person now than I was in my previous marriage of 18 years. I was blessed with a wonderful 2nd husband who worships the ground I walk on and who makes it his goal in life to make sure that I am happy. No, I didn't have kids involved, but if your realationship was full of blame, the best thing that can happen is that you give them one happy parent to nurture them, rather than 2 unhappy ones. Hang in there , and remember that you have our support.

Hollis

Re: Probably TMI!!!

Posted: Thu Mar 26, 2009 9:40 pm
by hotmama
Big thanks to you guys. I slipped out my phone while waiting 4 my attorney and was brought to tears from all the encouraging posts. It was rough, but noone was thriving with us together. It was really painful as our anniversary was Tuesday. But I made it through. I'm remembering each day is a chance at a happier day. Thanks guys.

Re: Probably TMI!!!

Posted: Sun Mar 29, 2009 12:38 am
by zeebs
A girl's gotta do what a girl's gotta do. Best wishes as you move on!

Re: Probably TMI!!!

Posted: Mon Mar 30, 2009 6:15 am
by pinkpomelo
Sorry to hear about your heartache, Nikki! Stay strong, because you know you have it in you to be strong.