That's a great idea and I know I was whining about it earlier, but I'm relieved that I suddenly no longer care about that. I think I was just getting caught up in the pre-marriage emotions and letting them get the better of me, and all the people out there looking at me like I'm crazy for not wanting a "real" wedding and making snide comments had even me second-guessing myself. This one woman who comes into where I work even went on the monologue about how some celebrity (Kelly Ripa I think? Not that it even matters really) said that she eloped because she wanted a marriage and not a wedding, and the woman rolled her eyes and said "I don't see the difference. They're the same thing. I guess to each their own but I think it's crazy not to want a wedding, that's only normal." And every time I saw her she'd keep saying things like that until I told her I won't be discussing this with her any longer. And I know this is a different issue, but the same type of emotions are involved for me... Eric and I are apparently abnormal too because we don't want kids either, but I have severe chronic migraines and my tmj doesn't help any and he has a few chronic health issues too... and even despite all of that, I'm not sure the idea of children would appeal to either of us even without those issues. We both know what we want, but sometimes I just start listening to other people too much and think there's something wrong with what I (don't) want, and start second-guessing myself because I must be crazy not to do things the "normal" way and other people's doubts really start weighing down on me. I'm sure that's what was going on with me last week, thinking that I wanted more the closer it go to the big day. I'm so glad that's all passedJenW wrote: Definitely have a party later, but only if that is something you want to do. Getting married is supposed to be more about the days after the wedding, rather than the one day itself. Many blessings on your life together.
On a side note we're both pretty upset that Eric seems to be having an allergic reaction to his ring. We both knew he probably would, he's extremely sensitive to most metals, and even things like the grommets on his jeans, something most people don't even think about, break him out into a rash wherever they come into contact with his skin. We'll be looking into some other options tonight, because it's important to both of us that he have a ring. It might just come down to a tattooed band, even if that does seem very Pam Anderson/Tommy Lee... but we'll be tasteful about it
