I am a very very high stress person and have often struggled with being overly tired or not being able to let little frustrations go. These are some of the things that help me:
-I've done breathing exercises for a long time. I lay down perfectly still and start with deep breathing, imagining my physical self melting into the floor and my mental self floating higher in the air, then move to imagining putting each part of my body to sleep for the toes up. Color visualization works too, but focusing on individual parts of the body takes longer and is more effective for me. When I do this I imagine clearing out stagnant energy and replacing it with good energy. *I usually do this before bed.
-Stretching and accupressure help too. Since my stress culminates in my back, I find that stretching my arms up out and back in centers me, and stretching my back by sitting on my feet and sliding my hands away on the floor (stretching out my spine) has a really good effect on my back. I do this when I wake up and it only takes a minute or two. If I can't sleep at night, I have an accupressure mat (a rectangular mat with little pointy plastic pieces all over it). Laying on it for ~10minutes can really ease tension and make it easier to sleep. It helps with migraines too.
-I recently discovered Siberian Eleuthero (also referred to as siberian ginseng)- an herbal supplement that affects how much cortisol (stress hormone) your brain releases. I was really skeptical when I started taking it, but figured I'd give it a try. It wasn't a dramatic thing that I noticed right away. The people I worked with noticed the difference before I did. It's subtle, but I'm generally more upbeat/energetic, less tired, and way more able to let go of stupid little things that i would harp on for hours without it. The comments I would get were generally "Well aren't you in a good mood today" *The reason I tried this supplement was because a lot of people I was working with were taking Rhodiola Rosacea for energy. When I read up on it I learned that it's an herbal antidepressant. I'm not depressive, but gave it a shot just to see. It had no effect on me, but the siberian eleuthero did/does (which makes sense since it targets stress and my problem is stress) It has made a noticeable difference in my life so I recommend at least reading up on it and deciding if it's something you'd like to try, especially if you find that your issues have a lot to do with thinking (negatively) on one thing for hours or days at a time.
-I have also had problems in the past with anemia (low iron) from not incorporating enough red meat in my diet. I was completely and utterly exhausted all the time with an inherent knowledge that something was "off", that i was not myself, and that that kind of exhaustion just is not normal. Anemia is a common problem for women, so I thought it worth mentioning. I didn't go to a doctor when this happened, but after about 2-3 weeks of being that way at work, a friend mentioned that it sounded like i was anemic and why not try getting my iron up. I ate steak that night and the next day and immediately started feeling better. Whenever I start feeling that kind of exhaustion since then, i really think about what i've been eating and whether or not it's been awhile since i last ate red meat and usually it turns out that it's been severely lacking in my diet.
Good luck on your relaxation techniques. From someone who feels your pain, I sincerely hope you find what works for you- life can be so much better when you figure out how to de-stress.
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